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Why Nice Guys Ignore the Girls They Like
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The Hidden Cost of Keeping Sex Casual
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@ Jennifer
Just because she’s stopped casual sex doesn’t mean she’s an entitlement princess. She knows people need respect and to earn it. Several men also need to learn that they, too, are not prizes for the opposite sex just because they can strut, nor do they deserve respect automatically, yet it’s quite a big priority for them.
Agreed. You’d think she was Stalin and Mugabe’s love child judging by some of the replies tbh. All I see is an admittance of guilt and a resolution to seek mutually respectful relationships in the future. Smh.
67Susan Walsh September 21, 2011 at 7:13 am
Another carouseler who’s past her used by date and now looking for a beta shmuck to cushion the landing.
Whoa, that is completely unfair. There is no way you can deduce this from Steph’s email. It sounded to me like she’d had a handful of hookups, which doesn’t necessarily mean intercourse. Nor is she looking for a beta shmuck – perhaps just learning from her mistake and focusing more on character? Also, Steph is 21 – hardly expired.
68Susan Walsh September 21, 2011 at 7:30 am
@Tasmin
Your commentary is incredibly valuable, thank you so much for sharing it here.
While I prefer women who chose not to engage in hookup culture – ever, I can relate much better with those who had the ‘a ha’ moment in college and were able to stay the course as opposed to those who seem to have had the ‘a ha’ moment once every 3 years.
Yes. It’s fair and right that we should be held accountable for our actions. This reminds me a bit of the Prodigal Son. I’m the father who will happily kill the fatted calf. But I acknowledge that men have the right to be as selective as they wish in qualifying a partner.
69Susan Walsh September 21, 2011 at 7:38 am
But I think it’s pretty risible that people are attempting to speak on her behalf about her true intentions. God forbid a person tries to rectify their outlook on life whilst still young. Nope! She must be a lascivious ex-slut looking to capitalise on her next unwitting prey.
Isabel + a lot.
This derisive attitude on the part of males is every bit as offensive as Brownmiller, Dworkin et al. It’s completely intolerant.
70Some Handle September 21, 2011 at 8:17 am
Back to Steph, I thought it was interesting that the guys she was referring to as tools, and generally undesirable – bad kisser, etc? She’s talking about dominant alpha asshats. Their dominance won them the hookup, even as they repelled the women on a conscious level.
Judging a Man By the Company He Keeps
Why Nice Guys Ignore the Girls They Like
Use Business Strategy to Improve Your Dating Life
Your Cheatin’ DRD4 Gene Mutation
The Hidden Cost of Keeping Sex Casual
Sign Me Up for Male Studies
Eleven Key Insights From the Men of Hooking Up Smart
@ Jennifer
Just because she’s stopped casual sex doesn’t mean she’s an entitlement princess. She knows people need respect and to earn it. Several men also need to learn that they, too, are not prizes for the opposite sex just because they can strut, nor do they deserve respect automatically, yet it’s quite a big priority for them.
Agreed. You’d think she was Stalin and Mugabe’s love child judging by some of the replies tbh. All I see is an admittance of guilt and a resolution to seek mutually respectful relationships in the future. Smh.
67Susan Walsh September 21, 2011 at 7:13 am
Another carouseler who’s past her used by date and now looking for a beta shmuck to cushion the landing.
Whoa, that is completely unfair. There is no way you can deduce this from Steph’s email. It sounded to me like she’d had a handful of hookups, which doesn’t necessarily mean intercourse. Nor is she looking for a beta shmuck – perhaps just learning from her mistake and focusing more on character? Also, Steph is 21 – hardly expired.
68Susan Walsh September 21, 2011 at 7:30 am
@Tasmin
Your commentary is incredibly valuable, thank you so much for sharing it here.
While I prefer women who chose not to engage in hookup culture – ever, I can relate much better with those who had the ‘a ha’ moment in college and were able to stay the course as opposed to those who seem to have had the ‘a ha’ moment once every 3 years.
Yes. It’s fair and right that we should be held accountable for our actions. This reminds me a bit of the Prodigal Son. I’m the father who will happily kill the fatted calf. But I acknowledge that men have the right to be as selective as they wish in qualifying a partner.
69Susan Walsh September 21, 2011 at 7:38 am
But I think it’s pretty risible that people are attempting to speak on her behalf about her true intentions. God forbid a person tries to rectify their outlook on life whilst still young. Nope! She must be a lascivious ex-slut looking to capitalise on her next unwitting prey.
Isabel + a lot.
This derisive attitude on the part of males is every bit as offensive as Brownmiller, Dworkin et al. It’s completely intolerant.
70Some Handle September 21, 2011 at 8:17 am
Back to Steph, I thought it was interesting that the guys she was referring to as tools, and generally undesirable – bad kisser, etc? She’s talking about dominant alpha asshats. Their dominance won them the hookup, even as they repelled the women on a conscious level.