Are You A Victim Of Love?
There Is Nothing Wrong With You
Actions That Change Your Dating Mind
Are They Your Soulmate Or Your Faux-mate?
Are You Focusing Your Will On Being Single?
Are You Looking For Love Or Looking For A Life?
Are You Making Yourself A Priority In Relationships?
Are You On A Love Deadline? The Perfect Age For Love.
Are You Using Your Spiritual Work As A Means To Find A Partner?
Breaking Your Love Rules For Dating Success
Getting Over The Hurt When A Relationship Ends
The Best Break-Up Ever
I am poly, and have been poly for over a decade. (Said less to Provide Credentials, and more to realise out loud that I’m older than I think.) My most recent awkwardness was “I don’t know how to discuss a problem I’m having with your partner, but perhaps I shouldn’t make you deal with it, huh”. (I am sometimes slow with social situations. *wry*)
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Clarisse Thorn
Posted on December 7, 2011
I know. I felt really stupid afterwards. I’ve tried and tried to understand how I reached the conclusion that they were poly without an explicit statement that they were. I just sort of got lost in a maze of allusions and implications, I guess.
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XtinaS
Posted on December 7, 2011
For what it’s worth, I hope I came across as “I shouldn’t be judging, I’m just blaaaaah wha” rather than “how very dare you err, I shall be writing about this to the local social papers”. To share a poly stupidity of my own: do not rebel against your raised-life* by moving in with a couple who swear they’re totally open to poly except clearly they were unicorn-shopping.
(* Like “living situation” plus “parental situation” plus “yes so I wasn’t 20 yet what of it”.)
I have social anxiety to the brim, but at some point I decided it cost me far and away less to state “I am poly, and your reaction is?” than to ever assume ever that I read the situation correctly*. Hell, I’m still trying to train that into me for societally-encoded normal things, let alone things that one doesn’t tend to write about to Abby. *cough*
(I am entirely fine with crediting my current partner in this, who has been poly waaay longer than I’ve been.)
There Is Nothing Wrong With You
Actions That Change Your Dating Mind
Are They Your Soulmate Or Your Faux-mate?
Are You Focusing Your Will On Being Single?
Are You Looking For Love Or Looking For A Life?
Are You Making Yourself A Priority In Relationships?
Are You On A Love Deadline? The Perfect Age For Love.
Are You Using Your Spiritual Work As A Means To Find A Partner?
Breaking Your Love Rules For Dating Success
Getting Over The Hurt When A Relationship Ends
The Best Break-Up Ever
I am poly, and have been poly for over a decade. (Said less to Provide Credentials, and more to realise out loud that I’m older than I think.) My most recent awkwardness was “I don’t know how to discuss a problem I’m having with your partner, but perhaps I shouldn’t make you deal with it, huh”. (I am sometimes slow with social situations. *wry*)
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Clarisse Thorn
Posted on December 7, 2011
I know. I felt really stupid afterwards. I’ve tried and tried to understand how I reached the conclusion that they were poly without an explicit statement that they were. I just sort of got lost in a maze of allusions and implications, I guess.
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XtinaS
Posted on December 7, 2011
For what it’s worth, I hope I came across as “I shouldn’t be judging, I’m just blaaaaah wha” rather than “how very dare you err, I shall be writing about this to the local social papers”. To share a poly stupidity of my own: do not rebel against your raised-life* by moving in with a couple who swear they’re totally open to poly except clearly they were unicorn-shopping.
(* Like “living situation” plus “parental situation” plus “yes so I wasn’t 20 yet what of it”.)
I have social anxiety to the brim, but at some point I decided it cost me far and away less to state “I am poly, and your reaction is?” than to ever assume ever that I read the situation correctly*. Hell, I’m still trying to train that into me for societally-encoded normal things, let alone things that one doesn’t tend to write about to Abby. *cough*
(I am entirely fine with crediting my current partner in this, who has been poly waaay longer than I’ve been.)