Are You A Victim Of Love?
There Is Nothing Wrong With You
Actions That Change Your Dating Mind
Are They Your Soulmate Or Your Faux-mate?
Are You Focusing Your Will On Being Single?
Are You Looking For Love Or Looking For A Life?
Are You Making Yourself A Priority In Relationships?
Are You On A Love Deadline? The Perfect Age For Love.
Are You Using Your Spiritual Work As A Means To Find A Partner?
Breaking Your Love Rules For Dating Success
Getting Over The Hurt When A Relationship Ends
The Best Break-Up Ever

Dating someone with an established partner is kinda like dating someone who has a full-time job and is going to grad school. You won’t get much time with them. Also if you have a problem with them getting a doctorate in basket weaving, you’re going to have a problem dating them…

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Lars

Posted on December 10, 2011
Having been poly for many years now, I have to say I have relationships with people, not couples. Yes, the other partners of my partners have impact on my life, as do all the other things that go in their lives. Once I have a partner, our lives become interwoven and so I have to be sensitive to their circumstances. But I do not have a relationship with their partners. And couples who come as a package – I try to steer well clear of those.

So, yes – I only date half a couple; I’m sensitive to the other person in the couple, but if s/he is ghost partner to the date, I move on.

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artdyke

Posted on December 15, 2011
While I am one of those people who just doesn’t get jealous (unless I’m genuinely being treated badly of course), I still have my own minor insecurities that pop up. Jealousy and insecurity never really go away, but they do become WAY less of a big deal and easier to deal with. Like anything, you only improve with practice.

It’s like any other negative emotion like fear or anger: you don’t need to be a slave to it. Instead you can talk about it, figure out precisely WHY you feel that way, and work it out from there.

I think the only relevant criteria in the list are about emotional maturity and supporting themselves ( knowing a lot of people commit without necessarily being able to support themselves but the complementarity between partners makes it work).