Are You A Victim Of Love?
There Is Nothing Wrong With You
Actions That Change Your Dating Mind
Are They Your Soulmate Or Your Faux-mate?
Are You Focusing Your Will On Being Single?
Are You Looking For Love Or Looking For A Life?
Are You Making Yourself A Priority In Relationships?
Are You On A Love Deadline? The Perfect Age For Love.
Are You Using Your Spiritual Work As A Means To Find A Partner?
Breaking Your Love Rules For Dating Success
Getting Over The Hurt When A Relationship Ends
The Best Break-Up Ever
Dating someone with an established partner is kinda like dating someone who has a full-time job and is going to grad school. You won’t get much time with them. Also if you have a problem with them getting a doctorate in basket weaving, you’re going to have a problem dating them…
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Lars
Posted on December 10, 2011
Having been poly for many years now, I have to say I have relationships with people, not couples. Yes, the other partners of my partners have impact on my life, as do all the other things that go in their lives. Once I have a partner, our lives become interwoven and so I have to be sensitive to their circumstances. But I do not have a relationship with their partners. And couples who come as a package – I try to steer well clear of those.
So, yes – I only date half a couple; I’m sensitive to the other person in the couple, but if s/he is ghost partner to the date, I move on.
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artdyke
Posted on December 15, 2011
While I am one of those people who just doesn’t get jealous (unless I’m genuinely being treated badly of course), I still have my own minor insecurities that pop up. Jealousy and insecurity never really go away, but they do become WAY less of a big deal and easier to deal with. Like anything, you only improve with practice.
It’s like any other negative emotion like fear or anger: you don’t need to be a slave to it. Instead you can talk about it, figure out precisely WHY you feel that way, and work it out from there.
I think the only relevant criteria in the list are about emotional maturity and supporting themselves ( knowing a lot of people commit without necessarily being able to support themselves but the complementarity between partners makes it work).
There Is Nothing Wrong With You
Actions That Change Your Dating Mind
Are They Your Soulmate Or Your Faux-mate?
Are You Focusing Your Will On Being Single?
Are You Looking For Love Or Looking For A Life?
Are You Making Yourself A Priority In Relationships?
Are You On A Love Deadline? The Perfect Age For Love.
Are You Using Your Spiritual Work As A Means To Find A Partner?
Breaking Your Love Rules For Dating Success
Getting Over The Hurt When A Relationship Ends
The Best Break-Up Ever
Dating someone with an established partner is kinda like dating someone who has a full-time job and is going to grad school. You won’t get much time with them. Also if you have a problem with them getting a doctorate in basket weaving, you’re going to have a problem dating them…
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Lars
Posted on December 10, 2011
Having been poly for many years now, I have to say I have relationships with people, not couples. Yes, the other partners of my partners have impact on my life, as do all the other things that go in their lives. Once I have a partner, our lives become interwoven and so I have to be sensitive to their circumstances. But I do not have a relationship with their partners. And couples who come as a package – I try to steer well clear of those.
So, yes – I only date half a couple; I’m sensitive to the other person in the couple, but if s/he is ghost partner to the date, I move on.
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artdyke
Posted on December 15, 2011
While I am one of those people who just doesn’t get jealous (unless I’m genuinely being treated badly of course), I still have my own minor insecurities that pop up. Jealousy and insecurity never really go away, but they do become WAY less of a big deal and easier to deal with. Like anything, you only improve with practice.
It’s like any other negative emotion like fear or anger: you don’t need to be a slave to it. Instead you can talk about it, figure out precisely WHY you feel that way, and work it out from there.
I think the only relevant criteria in the list are about emotional maturity and supporting themselves ( knowing a lot of people commit without necessarily being able to support themselves but the complementarity between partners makes it work).