It could be a guy thing, but I once read that something like 75% of divorces are initiated by women, so perhaps it’s just statistically more likely that the guy will feel like the losing party anyway.
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Joe Says:
July 26th, 2011 at 1:08 am
Two data points then. My recent divorce was also extremely amicable. Intellectually, it was the right thing to do. Emotionally it shattered me. I’m still picking up the pieces.
One factor in my divorce was that my ex has borderline personality disorder. I couldn’t go through with that or anything resembling it again. I don’t expect a future possible wife to be perfect, but neither could I accept her having significantly more baggage than I. I’d rather remain single the rest of my life than go through anything resembling the last five or so years of my life.
I should add that you need to know and be honest with yourself about your level of tolerance for certain things. For me, financial problems are a show stopper. I despise liars and cheats and have no desire to deal with addicts and high drama women. You may say I’m demanding the impossible. First, I’m not demanding anything. I know such women exist because I know many. They aren’t interested in my romantically, but I’m patient. I can wait. And if I find no one, so be it.