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@MsDulceDeLeche says:
August 29, 2011 at 1:26 am
Before men get crazy let me say this one more time, If a man tell you he is emotionally unavailable and you decide to deal with him. You have just said "I am open to falling in love with you, even though I know you wont love me back". I know is fun to blame it all on the boys, but lets take some responsibility. I have been in that situation before, it is not fun and it hurts like hell. This only applies if the man is upfront about his situation lol
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aylola says:
August 29, 2011 at 1:27 am
Great post Most, just great!!!
We women are sometimes dumb, key word: sometimes! LOL!!! Punks! JK, lol… Unfortunately, I've been in this position as to probably many other females have to; the signs are there, shit, sometimes he tells us right to our face, but we're still there, and just how you said, its because we want to figure out what is making him unavailable that if we know what that "it" is, and fix it, then he'll be available to us like how we would like. If he's unavailable, and we finally realize it, obviously we're going to want to 'fix' it, its just in our nature. Its really difficult to say what a man can do to prevent us from falling. We can be very stubborn and still try to make them fall for us. Sometimes there's nothing you men can do other than to just stop all communication, cold turkey. It's never better to treat us like trash (although there are some women out there that like to be treated like that), but if we're women of demeanor and respect and like how you said, if we value ourselves we're going to eventually get the point that what our little fantasies of you falling for us is not gonna happen and eventually we'll move on
What about when a female is emotionally unavailable and he falls? Do the same rules still apply?